You really should be doin IT more….

 

I just read a great article by Greta Christina (she’s super great) about how awesome casual sex is which she was inspired to write because of articles judging women harshly for participating in it. This got me thinking about my feelings about the sex I have, whether there is any shame attached to it, and I can honestly say “no.” But was that always true for me, also “no.”

My number of sexual partners is not high but it’s not low, I like to think of myself as open to having a good time but not reckless about it. Like all aspects of my life, I try to be smart.

But back to my point, why did I ever have any shame about bumpin uglies with random dudes and when did that stop? I can remember always being secretive about boy stuff when I was younger, I didn’t even want people to know when I liked a boy, I didn’t want their judgement. I think in high school I realized that people could be amazingly cruel about sexual and romantic issues and that the less people knew the better chance I had of not being completely humiliated. My close girlfriends knew things but no one else.

Once I started having sex I was the same way about it, I didn’t want anyones judgement so I didn’t want anyone to know, expect my close girlfriends.

So when did that stop?

I really don’t know…

…..but I can say that I don’t remember feeling it after my early 2os.

I would have to guess that maturity lead me to realize that what other people think about who you are fucking is really irrelevant, it’s how you feel about it that matters. Or I started fucking a better caliber of dude, ones I was willing to admit to 😉

Or, I started actually enjoying sex. That’s probably it. Around this same age sex became a much different ballgame, a much more enjoyable ballgame. Through trial and error I knew what I wanted and how to get it, and the boys I was sleeping with had refined their skills too. As soon as the sex consistently brought the big “O” it just wasn’t worth my time to worry about what other people thought about how I was getting it.

Now a days I may not sky write my sexual adventures for all to see but I discuss them openly and in the case of amazingly smokin hot dudes I will totally brag about it. And never for a second do I ponder the idea that people may deem me a “slut”, the thought actually never crosses my mind, ever.

How fucking awesome is that!!!

Nugget of Awesomeness: The thing that should be important to a person about sex is whether or not it’s good sex. (And because apparently I am now making PSAs you should also have safe sex) The is no lack of judgemental MFers in this world and they will find a way to talk shit no matter what you do, and sex is too fun an activity to let people shame you out of. My advice; Sex is fun, do it often and with passion. To all my readers, keep on fuckin.